Taking A Break

Just a quick post to anybody who is panicking & thought I’d jacked it all in…if you haven’t seen my Instagram post this (Sunday 5th Aug) evening then you may be wondering why my account has disappeared. Well, I’m off on holiday to celebrate Mr THTMM’s 30th birthday in Bali & for the first time ever, I’ve decided to take some time away & deactivated my account.

When Instagram becomes your job it can be incredibly hard to learn to put down your phone & live in the ‘real world’ so that’s exactly what I’m doing & I didn’t want the stress of returning home to 283582828 DM’s. I can honestly say that I NEVER taken a ‘day off’ (it’s currently Sunday morning that I’m sat typing this instead of spending time with my family…) since THTMM became my career & am usually found replying to messages at 11pm or emailing before breakfast so this break is very much needed.

This will also be my first holiday in a few years & our first time ever away from the kids for longer than a night so we’re planning on enjoying it & spending some well needed time as a couple rather than as mummy & daddy. I was only 22 when I had Elsa as well as Joe & I hadn’t been together too long before our little ‘surprise’ so our entire relationship has been spent focusing on them but now they are getting older (& I have the most incredible best friend who’s moving in & having them for us), I feel like it’s so important to find ourselves & each other again.

I’ll no doubt do a blog post on Bali when I get home to keep you all up to date with our travels but for now, it’s going to be something I’m going to embrace without my phone in hand.

Never fear, I’ll be back to boring you all with pictures of Baylyn House & talking about my woes on stories in a couple of weeks time so don’t miss me too much.

Pictures are from the super talented Charlotte Marie Photography; our family photographer (she took Elsa & Rory’s newborn, our wedding & the beach photographs in the playroom) & friend.



  1. Amy
    August 5, 2018 / 6:37 pm

    Love this!! And love your photos… you look amazing!!! x

  2. sophie
    August 5, 2018 / 6:41 pm

    These photos are gorgeous!! Have the best time away!

  3. Fay
    August 5, 2018 / 6:45 pm

    Your photos are amazing love the family one with Rory on your husbands shoulders such a great snap! Enjoy Your much deserved time away

  4. Sarah
    August 5, 2018 / 6:52 pm

    These pictures are absolutely beautiful! Enjoy your well deserved break together! Xx

  5. Amy Logan (previously Those Little Things)
    August 5, 2018 / 6:57 pm

    Charlotte, what incredible photos! You look amazing! Enjoy your well earned break and come back refreshed and no doubt glowing with a super tan!

  6. Rachel B
    August 5, 2018 / 6:57 pm

    Your photographs are beautiful Charlotte.
    I will miss your stories whilst you’re gone, but having a break is super important.
    Hope you and Joe have a wonderful time together. Enjoy every second.
    Lots of love xx

  7. Laura
    August 5, 2018 / 7:20 pm

    Such a beautiful family gorgeous photos! Glad Rory perked up bless him hahaa. Enjoy Joes birthday and have an amazing break away. Look forward to seeing the pics upon your return.

  8. Kate
    August 5, 2018 / 7:26 pm

    I do hope you will be taking lots of photos to share when you get back. I had a holiday this year to Mexico and left my kids with my mum and I had an absolute ball! I came back feeling refreshed, feeling like a better Mummy for it and more in love with my partner than ever!
    You will receive some negative comments from trolls about leaving your babies, just remember it’s jealousy. You so deserve this break and I really hope you enjoy it and make lots of wonderful memories. I will be following Sian as I have come to love watching baby Sienna grow as much as your babies! I not only take inspiration from your beautiful home but the from the way you juggle work and your family and friends. Thank you for your blog and for sharing your life with me.
    I’m a big fan Charlotte and love sharing your journey.
    Much Love,
    Kate (@confessionsofanautismmum)

    • Charlotte Amor Valentine
      August 5, 2018 / 8:12 pm

      The main reason I’m deactivating is to stop the bad comments about what a horrible mother I am leaving my kids from ruining my holiday! It’s sad but true. I’m so with you on that. Sometimes we need a bit of ‘me’ time & in many cases, a bit of ‘us’ time to remember where we started & who we started with before having littles who naturally take over our lives. We didn’t have a proper honeymoon so now they are older we’re making the most of it xx

  9. Bekki
    August 5, 2018 / 9:04 pm

    I’ve been following you for a while THTMM. And can honestly say you look a fantastic mummy to Rory and Elsa! Like someone said above, the negative comments are jealosy! I don’t have children but can 100% understand why anyone would want a break away. I have a 3 year old labrador and even I need a break! (Ha!). Have a fabulous time. Look forward to pictures when you’re back xxx

    • Lorraine
      August 5, 2018 / 9:49 pm

      It’s good for kids to have other adults in their lives who they spend a.good amount of time.with independently of their mum and dad. Lots of special memories can be made for everyone involved.

      Have fun ?

      • Charlotte Amor Valentine
        August 5, 2018 / 10:02 pm

        Sian basically lives with us anyway (we spend way too much time together!) so it’s not a big change for them but I think they’ll love it, especially having baby Sienna for a ‘sleepover’ xx

  10. Connie king
    August 5, 2018 / 9:16 pm


  11. Lou
    August 5, 2018 / 10:12 pm

    Have the best holiday together you both deserve it. You look amazing by the way what a achievement xxxx

  12. Amy
    August 6, 2018 / 5:56 pm

    Ahhh amazing photos lovely!! Have an AMAZING holiday.. happy birthday Joe! Look forward to catching up when you’re back xx Amy xx

  13. Court_Farm_Home
    August 6, 2018 / 6:04 pm

    I’ve only recently joined Instagram and started following THTMM and can honestly say it’s my favourite account. So I’ll miss watching your daily updates but look forward to you coming back. By then I should have moved into my home and will be grateful for your tips and wisdom in all things house and home. Enjoy your break 🙂

  14. Sam
    August 6, 2018 / 6:55 pm

    Sometimes we all need a break like this u r lucky to have a friend like sian who is looking after your kids.have fun.u r looking amazing and very beautiful plz plz do share your whieght loss tips and tricks when u come back.

  15. August 7, 2018 / 4:23 pm

    Absolutely stunning photos Charlotte you look amazing! Have a well deserved rest with Joe and enjoy every moment together on your belated honeymoon ❤️

  16. Siobhan
    August 10, 2018 / 9:12 am

    I feel like my right arm has been cut off and youve only been gone a week haha!!

    Have the best time with your hubby celebrating! Totallly understand and think your decision is completely right.

    These pictures are beautiful!

  17. Helen
    August 10, 2018 / 10:48 am

    Omg i did panic because i couldnt find you on instsgram..lol…went then to facebook…to your website to find this. Well good on you…have a fabulous time and now all is good in the world i can sleep.

  18. Becca Burton
    August 10, 2018 / 2:37 pm

    Where was these photos taken please Charlotte? these are beautiful x

  19. Jo Elize
    August 12, 2018 / 9:53 am

    Hope you and Joe have an absolute fantastic time away, very well deserved and I’m sure the digital break will do you good!

  20. Linda Davidson
    August 16, 2018 / 2:55 pm

    Have the very best time away – love love love the photos, they are beautiful and you look stunning … can’t wait till you’re back tho xxx