As somebody who has a large following, I have to accept that I leave myself open to negative comments & people. Unfortunately, as sad as it may be, it comes with the territory.
Instagram is & has been my favourite platform for a few years now, mainly for it’s friendly community who lift & empower individuals as well as so many wonderful small businesses that have found their feet through the support of others. I certainly wouldn’t be where I am now without it & for that I will always be thankful.
I’ve been seeing things across Instagram lately, within the community that used to surround me in such a lovely warm cocoon of love. We’d all encourage, support & show kindness to one another, but not in a click way as one may expect, but one where anybody is welcome to join us.
However, things have changed recently & I can’t quite put my finger on it.
Women turning against other women. Mothers turning against mothers. Hate after hate after hate.
Over the past couple of years I could probably have counted the number of mean/negative comments I had on one hand. The past few months? I would say on average 5 a week ranging from insulting my parenting to personal attacks.
As a fairly confident person, I usually take these with a pinch of salt. But over the past few days whilst I’ve been spending some lovely time in Paris with my husband (our first trip away just us two since having children 4 years ago) I received 4 messages, then one again today as we got home on what was a beautiful moment on Instagram stories of my daughter running over to my husband upon our return home.
It’s shocking & quite frankly, I’m feeling trodden down.
Constructive criticism is fair enough & I will happily take that on board but being horrible for the sake of being horrible or saying things which quite frankly has nothing to do with you or impact on your life is just damn right rude.
I have to say that for every negative comment I get, I probably get a few hundred positives. But unfortunately they aren’t the ones that stay with us or make an impact on us quite like the bad ones…which is sad but unfortunately it’s human nature to want to be liked & to not like criticism.
I’ve been seeing so many of the accounts I love under the same fire too with ‘trolling’ messages over quite frankly the most ridiculous things. They are just words at the end of the day, but words can & do hurt.
In my opinion, I just see no need at all in purposefully going out of your way to upset or hurt somebody. It is completely & utterly beyond me. Why would anyone ever see the need to attack somebody that they don’t actually know (& only know what they choose to show on social media…nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors or what battles they are facing outside of the walls of Instagram)? If an account I followed posted something that I really didn’t agree with or offended me that much then I’d quite simply click the unfollow button & carry on about my everyday life. No harm done.
Unfortunately though, this is the new age world of the world wide web that we live in & it’s all too easy to hide behind a keyboard.
It’s all too easy to get unbalanced from that. To become too removed from the ‘real world’ so that we can’t see that our comments are going to a real person with real feelings, or on the opposite side become too involved so that we feel we know that person even if we haven’t met them & that we have the right to make comments on their actions or opinions.
We’ve lost all human compassion.
So, I’m going to be on a mission this evening to spread love across the Instagram community & I want you all to join forces with me.
I challenge you to like/comment on 10 of the accounts you’ve followed for a while & love, telling them just that; how much you love them. I then want you to find 10 accounts you don’t follow but admire, you can obviously choose to follow them but also comment on a couple of posts with positivity & warmth. Don’t expect anything in return but just spread the power of positivity around.
Also if you fancy posting a picture of a lit candle (everyone loves a good candle…) with #sharethelove to light someone else’s with the above quotes then go for it!